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Not that you're predicament has this problem, but there's another side to child support that isn't cool, and that's for the supporter's side. My mother's 2nd husband had a nasty bitch for an ex-wife. She milked him for every penny she could when they got divorced. They had 3 children together, only one of them was under the age of 18 (his son, who was 16) and didn't have a full-time job. This poor guy had 40% of his pay sent to his ex-wife, who didn't have a job and lived in the house he bought. When my mother met him, he was living in a studio apartment and could barely afford his own rent, let alone food for himself. He was making a modest amount, but clearly not enough. Finally, my mother stepped in and helped him get some legal action and got his payments to a reasonable amount. He loved his children, did everything he could for them. And even though my mother divorced him a decade later, I still think he was a swell guy, just a little too much of a pushover.

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rachael wrote:Fucking pay it! Jesus, I don't understand the issue with this - my kid could potentially go hungry because you don't want to do your part, even financially?
Does anyone here pay/receive child support payments, or could you explain to me some reason WHY a person would think they shouldn't have to pay it?


Doesn't he get that paying it helps your child eat? What kind of a stupid shit is he? I mean, he is the father of your child...doesn't he care about his own daughter or son (which one)?

I'm sorry, but my parents are still together and I never had to deal with this, so it's kind of mind-boggling to me. Does he just bitch at you for having a low-paying job or something as an excuse for not paying, like "If you made more this wouldn't be an issue" or some shit like that? I mean, I just do not get how this shit works (luckily for me, I guess).

Sorry. This sounds like a depressing situation.
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This is one of the greatest phrases I have ever read. Salut!
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rachael wrote:Fucking pay it! Jesus, I don't understand the issue with this - my kid could potentially go hungry because you don't want to do your part, even financially?
Does anyone here pay/receive child support payments, or could you explain to me some reason WHY a person would think they shouldn't have to pay it?


The only reason I can think why someone wouldn't pay child support is because they are a turd in human form.

Rachael, are there no local woman's organizations that could help you with this?

In Illinois, I think it's set up so that child support is automatically deducted from the paycheck of whoever needs to pay the support, and then forwarded to the parent taking care of the child by the state.

I don't think its a perfect system, as I THINK both the giving and receiving parent need to live in Illinois, but it may be that only the receiving parent needs to live here. I do know there are some problems when the payee lives out of state, but I think there are reciprocity agreements between the states about this.

The biggest problem is when the payee drops out of sight, and works under the table.

Good luck on getting this worked out.
Last edited by Mark Hansen_Archive on Mon May 07, 2007 4:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

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rachael wrote:Fucking pay it! Jesus, I don't understand the issue with this - my kid could potentially go hungry because you don't want to do your part, even financially?
Does anyone here pay/receive child support payments, or could you explain to me some reason WHY a person would think they shouldn't have to pay it?


because they hate the chick they had the kid with and they don't care about the kid

I'm sorry you are into it with a shitty dude, he should do what he is spossed to


I am not joking here or being funny, you should have someone beat the living shit out of him.
After which, they say to him 'if you don't start doing what it is you know you should do I will come back and beat your ass like this every single week till you do'
have them live up to that threat, it will only take one or two times and he'll pay up.
I have seen this method work on even the worst most awful shitty asshole dude.
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He may have heard the anecdotes of the young man who paid his child support as ordered, yet was dismayed to note the size of his baby-mama's car and crib -- for they exceeded that of his own on both counts.

Or the other young man who, on any given Sunday, may win an NFL championship but must then leave the stadium site in a Korean-made automobile.

Or the man whose former paramour was expected to use child-support funds to buy toys for their child, yet spent the money on plastic surgery, acquiring the appearance of a wealthy child-molesting pop star. Sadly, no insurance company offers policies guarding against this behavior.
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