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by Incornsyucopia_Archive
Yut,
We seem to have had similar past experiences, though you on the punk rocker side and me on the more hippyish (dreadlocks and all that). Now, I mostly wear button-up shirts - to me they're the most comfortable and, especially here in too hot Taiwan, cool (literal meaning) shirts to wear - have relatively short hair, and the earring I had for nearly ten years recently fell out and I really can't be bothered to get another one. In the last couple of years I've worked as a musician on cruise ships, travelled to SE Asia and India, and now find myself teaching English to kids in Taiwan - a freakish appearance just doesn't work. It's funny when I show people here pictures of what I used to look like, they just don't get it, but I don't regret it. It was a stage for me; needing to find validation for myself through externalities. Now I just don't care. If someone judges me by how I look then their loss not mine.
I still have a lot of friends part of the hippyish subculture, and during a visit back to Canada this summer I spent a fair bit of time with them. The ones I've known for a long time seemingly couldn't care less what I look like now (though not shaving somewhat takes care of that), and those I was just meeting for the first time, well some didn't seem to express much interest in getting to know me, perhaps because of my not wearing the 'right' clothes, but then a lot of them did and I made some good friends.
Basically I've just grown past caring. I don't at all mind people with piercings, freaky hair styles or clothes; if that's what they're feeling good for them. I just don't consider myself, and don't have much of a desire to be, a freak. Drawing attention to myself isn't my thing, but that there are such people in the world, well I think it makes it a hell of a lot more interesting. That's why I disagree with your (and others) dismissal of Burning Man. Yes there are poseurs, anti-conformity conformists and hypocrites as there are in seemingly all groups that I have ever come across, but then there are the genuinely cool, freaky people, who could really care less what you look like, are super artsy, and who are doing some really interesting, pushing-the-boundaries kind of thing. I don't have the energy for it mostly, but again I'm so glad that there are people like this in the world doing weird, crazy things making the world making more interesting. The poseurs will always be there, but that shouldn't prevent us from seeing the good people who at the very least do a great job of pissing off the likes of Jerry Falwell and Pat Robertson. ANYONE who does that has found at least some redemption in my books.