i don't think one should get married without first getting a lot of things out of their system. while some people may be "ready" by their early or mid twenties, i personally can't imagine feeling this way for a long time. even workign the same job for over six months, or living in the same city for over two years seems like more than i can handle. i tend to like change.

were any of you now-married fellas like this durign your youth? did the decision to get married mellow you out, or were you already mellowed out before then?

also, the million dollar question...

PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS: CRAP or NOT CRAP?

Eksvplot wrote:while some people may be "ready" by their early or mid twenties, i personally can't imagine feeling this way for a long time...did the decision to get married mellow you out, or were you already mellowed out before then?

my answer to that is no, i was not mellowed out. but i was willing to mellow out if the right girl came along. i just didn't know she would come along in my mid-20's. until i found the only woman i wanted to marry, i was only living for myself. i still like to travel too, so i got a job that lets me do that. she puts up with a lot more by being my wife than i do by being her husband, bless 'er.

PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS: CRAP or NOT CRAP?

crap. prenups say your marital love is weaker than your net worth or you aren't willing to sacrifice it all. they don't call it 'taking the plunge' for nothing. separate bank accounts, allowances are crap too.
if stepchildren are involved, give it a waffle factor 4. but that's all the more reason to be sure your love is strong.

it's an institution built by women based on jealousy.

p.s.-i'm a jerk.

I first met my wife when she was 13 and I was 16.

We started dating when she was 19 and I was 21.

Now she is 29 and I am 31. We have been married for almost four years.

She listens to some seriously shitty music. She talks a lot when she drinks...and if anyone ever tried to undermine my aspirations for happiness, contentment or peace in whatever form I choose, she would gouge their eyes out with hot pokers.

She is my best friend, the hottest girl I know and a truly admirable former ballerina, owner of a 4.0 GPA in her last semester of school and recipient of some seriouslt beautiful eyes.

I can't imagine life without her. She is the coolest woman on Earth. Why does she have to love Madonna?

NOT CRAP

Uh...depends when you ask me.

I'm going to use my better judgement and eleborate/vote at a later date.

Not Crap on most days.

Why can't everybody post pictures of the wives and then we can vote if its crap or not crap to marry them.

There are 2 people who posted about their happy marriages 2+ years ago, on the first page of this thread, who are no longer married.

Those are just the ones I know about.

Is funny, yes?

there are at least three in the thread who are no longer wed.


stay strong you beautiful people.




Faiz

Good shit. Two years now, and I have to say it's been nothing but goodness to greatness. Of course, I married "up", as in someone older, more attractive, more financially stable and less of a mess than myself.

My wife has been amazing through some awful crap with death in the family almost directly after we got hitched and has even been a major factor in bringing musical endeavors to fruition, without being even a "music geek". She is sane and rational when I am less than and um... really likes fondue.

Now, as far as the act of "marriage" is concerned, I think it's a worthy endeavor. This may sound odd, but I really like being a married man. It's the first decision that I have made that will continually effect the rest of my life, good or bad.

Some may equate it with the "boring" life, or a nudge closer to suburban blandness. But honestly, I may miss hanging around like a hipster dufus in bars and having fun wing dings with other single ladies that was so prevalent many moons ago (ok, not that prevalent in regards to the ladies), but you really get down to some serious nitty gritty life shit when you are hitched to another wagon and yer both hanging on through the good, bad and the ugly. The uglies are uglier, but the goodies are so much goodier.

DO not bother unless you really want to put some distance between yourself and your youth. Be prepared to grow or fail.




Oh, and get fatter. Yes, you will probably get fatter.