Hey, I think you learned something and you're not a heel because you apologized.

The truth is, most people are sensitive about their appearance (weight gain, balding or graying).

It's really difficult for women especially when a lot of time it's hormonal. I know of several women that are in shape but heavier than average due to poly cystic ovaries. Weight becomes a constant obsession and sore spot for people like this. Most men I know are as vain and sensitive as women in this regard.

I never bust balls regarding personal appearance, it never comes out right. I hate regretting shit like that later, just like H-GM is doing now.

I have never done this to a female & don't intend to do it, but I have made fun of my male friends, even those, who were probably just slightly heavier than me.

I would never do this to a stranger, but close friends with whom I have a great rapport, not an issue at all & certainly not meant for a friend/acquaintance whom I would meet rarely.

Plus tons of jokes get thrown on my love handles & my yo-yo weight cycles. Not an issue at all. I have made one reference here to Sly Bug, all in jest....Sly Bug, good Frenchman. Bald Jokes, not my area of expertise.

Mark Hansen wrote: Picking on people, especially when it goes beyond friendly give and take, sucks, no matter what it is about.

Like I said, context makes a big difference in whether it is tolerable.

Agreed. I guess assumed we were talking about good natured, between friends, joking around. I mean if I haven't seen a friend in a while and he has gained between 20-50 pounds. I'd be an asshole to ignore that. I'd say something like, "looks like you've been eating well lately." At that point it's my friends job to laugh or explain why the fuck it looks like he is about to give birth and that's that.... cue the next topic in our conversation. I'd say that exchange is fairly natural in the male world. I'd never pull that on a chick.....no matter how much weight they put on.

i make fun of my own weight all of the time...i enjoy being a big dude...

i'm naturally big anyway but am trying to redirect that more towards my arms and muscle areas these days...

it sucks because i used to be thin and in shape when i was younger but around my senior year of high school my metabolism said 'fuck you buddy' and stopped working as fast...trying to lose the weight has been hell ever since...

A while back I ran into to Tutku, whom I hadn't seen in a few months. Since Tutku is adorable, I gave her a hug and said "Hello Tutku, you look great!"

Tutku smiled and said, "Hi Devin. You are fat now. Why?" There wasn't anything at all insulting about the way she said it and, indeed, she didn't even realize that I should be insulted until everybody else started laughing.

I have gotten fat, and I might have gotten snippy with anybody else who pointed it out. It is impossible, however, to be snippy with Tutku. So don't bother pointing out somebody else's fatness. Unless you are Tutku.

The inclusion of the "Why" made it less offensive somehow.

itchy mcgoo wrote:

sunlore wrote:I pulled out the "Dude is that a bald spot on the back of your head?" the other day. Freaked the guy right out, which was funny, since there wasn't a bald spot on the back of his head.

Always fun!

Everytime my wife cuts my hair, she licks her finger tip, touches the crown of my head and then blows across it, saying ,"Oooh, it's getting a bit thin up there!"

It gives the exact sensation of 'thinning'.

It catches me everytime, to the point I'm checking out the back of my head in CCTV monitors in shops.

I cannot stand the phenomenon. I was called out on this last year. You know what I did? I exercised... a lot. And I'm not as big and I've got some muscle-age working. My friends still talk shit when we were at Lollapalooza. They can suck my big fat black cock. Not cool... Definitely crap. I'm emotionally scarred.

Would it help if we all take pictures of ourselves sticking our bellies out as far as we can and posting them in this thread?

placeholder wrote:As I have said maybe 1,000 times on this message board, I am one of these huge fat guys. Have been for most of my life. I am grotesquely, stared-at-in-public, will-he-break-my-furniture fat.

As a direct result of this, I am also acutely self-aware

Yeah, hmmm, it's weird.

On one hand, if you're already fat enough for you to know 100% that you're fat, then:

a) you're probably going to used to the gawking and so forth, and you'll have a thicker skin, probably, and commentary is unlikely to affect you.

But then:

b) there's also less reason for commentary--your size is obvious, and commenting on the obvious is kind of pointless.

But if you're nouveau-fat, or just-on-the-bleeding-edge-of-going-to-seed fat, then:

a) you're more likely to be sensitive about it, and

b) the change in your condition is more likely to be recent and therefore noteworthy in some way.

I dunno, but there's no one I know on whose appearance I would comment in a joking way. Just no benefit to it.